Monday, 8 December 2014

Pre marital intercourse- Yes or No?

The pre marital intercourse is the burning topic all over the world. With the globalization of world and modernization in the attitude of people, the pre marital inter course is becoming a very common issue now a days. As a management student, I have studied Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory which is portrayed in the form of pyramid. It clearly states the wants and needs of every individual where physical needs play an important role just like other basic needs like food, clothes and shelter. 


Research shows that there is increase in number of  inter course before marriage. It is highly common in the western countries but Indian law does not have any act for it. However when a grown up, educated and office-going woman subjects herself to sexual intercourse with a friend or colleague on the latter's promise that he would marry her, she does so at her own peril. She must be taken to understand the consequences of her act and must know that there is no guarantee that the boy would fulfill his promise. At present the age of marriage specified under the Hindu Marriage Act is 18 years for women and 21 years for men. But there have been a number of instances where girls/young women below the age of 18 fall in love and have intercourse with the boys which is biologically also  wrong for them. They have to face many consequences like unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, harassment from the society. This results in depression and anxiety.




I strongly condemn the practice of  pre marital intercourse as there are lot of consequences attached to it. According to some research report, pre marital intercourse is not advisable because of the following reasons:



  1.  1: There are chances that couples will break up or fall apart after pre marital sex 
     2: Many men and women do not prefer marrying  a person who has had intercourse with someone else.
     3:  Research shows than those who have premarital sex tend to have less happy marriages.
     4: Those who have premarital sex are more likely to have their marriage end in divorce.
     5: Persons and couples who have had premarital sex are more likely to have extramarital affairs as well as the basic attitude of the person  doesn't change.
     6: Having premarital sex may arise an unwanted situation and  force  you into marrying a person who is not right for you.
     7: couples with premarital sex experience tend to achieve sexual satisfaction sooner after they are married. However…
     8: People having pre marital sex  are likely to be less satisfied overall with their sex life during marriage.
     9: Poor premarital sexual habits can be carried over to spoil sex in marriage.
     10: Guilt may push a couple into a bad marriage and ruin his/her future.
     11: Premarital sex steals away a couple of "sexual cement."
  2. Getting physical before marriage is not a smart move as one has to face the adverse after effects of it.
  3. God has created universe and it is mentioned in our mythology that the concept of marriage is very pious and pure. 
  4. Mythological explanation 
  5. According to Indian Mythology
  6. Ardhanarishvara  is a form of lord Shiva and his wife Parvati.Ardhanarishvara is presented  as half male and half female, divided  down the middle. The right half is usually the male Shiva, depicting  his traditional attributes. Ardhanarishvara represents the synthesis of masculine and feminine energies of the universe and illustrates how Shakti, the female principle of God, is inseparable from (or the same as, according to some interpretations) Shiva, the male principle of God. The union of these principles is exalted as the root and womb of all creation. Another view is that Ardhanarishvara is a symbol of Shiva's all-pervasive nature. 

  7. God has bestowed one person to everyone whom we consider as a life partner. Getting physical with one person is healthier and safer as compared to pre marital intercourse with different persons.
  8. According to the nature's law every person in the universe has the capability to give birth to a new life with his/her partner and that partner can only be one and by engaging into pre marital sex, one is not sure whether that person is really going to be the partner or a soulmate of the other person.Now a days people are not serious about relationships and their partners. They only want to satisfy their desires and for that they keep experimenting with people which is absolutely against the rule of the nature. We are not meant to experiment with people. We are made only for that person and we can only go intimate with that person if not this may cause adversities and affect the balance of the universe.
  9. With the modernization of the world, people are forgetting the basic law of the nature and unknowingly increasing complications of life. 
  10. Holy Bible has mentioned some important verses regarding the Pre Marital sex
  11. There are three powerful verses mentioned in the Holy Bible relating to the marriage which I would like to mention:
  12.  "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled , for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous" (Hebrews:13:4, English Standard Version, emphasis added throughout).
    "He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself . He will get wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace will not be wiped away" (Proverbs:6:32-33, ESV).
    "Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his [or her] own body " (1 Corinthians:6:18, ESV).
  13. STDs and AIDS
  14. Having intercourse with many people also arises the chance of STDs and AIDS.Individuals who are infected with STDs are at least two to five times more likely than uninfected individuals to acquire HIV infection if they are exposed to the virus through sexual contact. STDs also appear to increase the risk of an HIV-infected person transmitting the virus to his or her sex partners. Studies have shown that HIV-infected individuals who are also infected with other STDs are particularly likely to shed HIV in their genital secretions.
  15. I would suggest that one should wait for a right partner and the right time and have a happy and healthy life rather than getting intimate with everyone and increasing the chances of suffering, betrayal, heartache, remorse, shame and guilt. It is a tough decision wait for a long term purpose, it is the wisest decision. God has blessed everyone with a partner sometimes we call them a soulmate. He is the person with whom one shares deep natural and innermost feelings in the form of love, romance, sex,compatibilityspirituality etc. 
  16. Making Love is the most pious and wonderful thing. As long as we live human body play an important role in our life. We should care , nourish , love and value our body and not let its importance drained by getting intimate with someone who we are unsure of spending our lives with. Sex or intercourse should only be done with someone who owns our heart, with whom we are going to spend our beautiful married life that is why sex is also called as making love.


I say No to pre marital sex and prefer to wait!
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